In an article for , Susan Heitler, Ph D, author and Harvard graduate, describes emotionally healthy functioning in the absence of BPD or NPD: “Emotionally healthy functioning is characterized by ability to hear your own concerns, thoughts, and feelings and also to be responsive to others’ concerns.” In the world of the narcissist, that second part just isn’t present.
Narcissists are unable to step outside of themselves to imagine any weight behind someone else’s opinion.
Mix and match five out of nine symptoms of NPD with five out of the nine symptoms of BPD, and you get someone who will likely be described at least as “difficult” or “high maintenance,” and who certainly is having a tough time in day-to-day life.
Both people with BPD and with NPD deal with an intense fear of abandonment.
Here are the signs to look for before you get too caught up in a narcissist’s serving of egocentricity. ___ He has a sense of entitlement and becomes angry if not treated specially.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder Checklist: ___ He talks about himself and monopolizes the conversation. ___ He’s easily hurt and easily feels rejected; he can’t handle criticism.
For example, both BPD and NPD deal with conflict in a way that is unhealthy to themselves and those around them.